How to Let Go of That One Love

Hard to let go...

Have you ever had a first love? No, not like the kid who passed you the crayons in kindergarten. But that person that you had fun with and didn't want to let go of. Ever found yourself crying to the Backstreet Boy "Incomplete?" Ever gotten tired of it and tried to let go but couldn’t, because you always wanted them there when no one else was; when it rains, when you were sad, or when you were scared?

Steps

1. Get rid of material things that remind you of that person - everything but your memories (memories can help you laugh when you’re sad).
2. Get closer to family (it's not the kind of love you want but it is the kind you need).
3. Talk about him/her to parents, counselors, or that friend that’s been there for you. They can be trusted and they will always hold you up when you want to fall and cry!
4. Know that you are not alone. It's one of life's hard lessons. Try to learn from it and strengthen yourself for having had the experience. After all, it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
5. Volunteer. Help others - it'll keep you active and take your mind off things.
6. Study or work harder. Study is a great place to lose yourself and get ahead. And it will focus your thoughts on greater promises for the future.

Tips
• Surround yourself with fun or comforting situation

Warnings
• Watch out for sad love songs and get rid of your bad feelings - it's okay to feel bad but don't let it control you so that you end up wallowing all the time; you'll lose friends that way and spoil things for yourself

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How to live a healthy life

1. Step 1

   1.Drink Alcohol in Moderation: If you choose to drink alcohol, the key to a healthy lifestyle is moderation
   
   -Known the alcohol content of different drinks
   -DO NOT mix alcohol and drugs
   -DO NOT Drink and Drive
   -DO NOT drink if pregnant
   -DO NOT make drinking a habit

2. Step 2

   2. Check Up on Your Health: The key to staying well and living long is catching a problem before they become serious
   
   -Get regular medical checkups
   -Ask about immunization: Women planning pregnancies should review their immunization status before conceiving. If you are over age 65 - you may need to immunization for INFLUENZA and PNEUMONIA.

3. Step 3

   3. Eat Healthfully: A proper diet can help prevent illness
   
   -Select foods with important nutrients
   -Protein: 15% of calories
   -Carbohydrates: 50% of calories
   -Fats: less than 30% of calories
   -Fibers: 25 - 30g daily
   -Vitamins and minerals: A, B6, C, D, calcium, sodium, iron ...
   -Watch calories
   -Eat unprocessed foods
   -Drink plenty of water
   -Watch fat and cholesterol
   -Reduce salts and sugars
   -Get into good eating habits

4. Step 4

   4. Prevent Drug Abuse
   
   -Learn about ANY drug you take!
   -Avoid drug abuse situations
   -Use medication ONLY as directed

5. Step 5

   5. Exercise
   
   -Begin an exercise program
   -Choose a workout that you enjoy
   -Begin gradually
   -Use the right equipment
   -Exercise the entire body
   -Warmup before and cool down after
   -Make working out a habit: write down your workouts and set goals!
   -Find an exercise partner
   -DONT workout every day; break up your workouts with a day off in between

6. Step 6

   6. Stay Safe
   
   -Protect yourself when playing any sport
   -Wear sunblock when outdoors
   -Accident proof your home; CLEAN UP THE CLUTTER!
   -Wear a seat belt
   -Practice safe sex
   -Have a list of emergency phone numbers

7. Step 7

   7. Get Good Sleep
   
   -Exercise and eat right; Just not before you go to sleep
   -Limit caffeine intake
   -STOP smoking
   -Avoid drinking a "nightcap"
   -Make your sleeping environment as quiet and comfortable as possible
   -ROUTINE, ROUTINE, ROUTINE!
   -Put your mind at ease

8. Step 8

   8. Manage Stress
   
   -Identify the problem
   -Practice relaxation techniques
   -Use medications if needed
   -Change the way you behave; think positive not negative

9. Step 9

   9. Avoid Tobacco
   
   -DO NOT start
   -Teach your children
   -Set a quit date and stick to it!
   -Become smoke-free in your home

10. Step 10

    10. Control your weight
    
    -Strike a balance between calories you take in and calories you burn
    -Eat Less
    -Eat small and sensible portions
    -Avoid fats and grease
    -Avoid eating late at night: THIS IS A BIG ONE!
    -Exercise
    -Be patient

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How to Cope with Work-related Stress

A Yale University study found 29 percent of workers feel "quite a bit or extremely stressed at work." Job stress is something we all employees face, and each of us handles that stress differently. Stress does not have to be a negative thing, and learning how to cope with and manage stress is imperative to maximizing our job performance, prioritizing safety on the job and maintaining physical and mental health.
Here are several step that might work on you.

Instructions :

1. Step 1

   Know the symptoms of job stress. These are not limited to, but may include apathy, negativism/cynicism, low morale, boredom, anxiety, frustration, fatigue, depression, alienation, anger/irritability, physical problems (headaches, stomach problems) and absenteeism.

2. Step 2

   Maintain your perspective. While jobs are disposable, your friends, family and health aren't. If an employer's expectations are taking a toll on you, start looking for a new job/new employer.

3. Step 3

   Alter your existing job. If you enjoy working for your employer but your job has become too stressful, or even to monotanous, ask your supervisor adjusting your job to fit to your skills.

4. Step 4

   Take a break. If you're having an especially bad day and can feel the tension mounting, get away for a bit. Take a walk outside to get some fresh air while removing yourself from the negative situation. Finding some quiet, meditative time, even if for five or ten minutes, can reduce stress.

5. Step 5

   Talk it out. A great way to reduce stress is to talk it out, or "vent" to someone you're close to. Hearing yourself describe your concerns aloud may help you think about a new solution to your problem, and sharing your frustrations with someone else may reinforce the importance of seeking change to resolve the issues.

6. Step 6

   Develop an ally or two at work. Knowing that others in your situation "get it" can create camaraderie and relief.

7. Step 7

   Maintain a positive attitude, and stay away from those who exhibit negativity.

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Overcome Self Doubt-Lack of Confidence, Courage and Can't Do it Attitude

Perky Personality, positive attitude, perpetually happy? Is that how others see me? Well, it is not true, by a long shot.

When a friend commented that I seemed more pensive and less perky than usual, she was actually a little annoyed that I could be down in the dumps, concerned or even doubting my self.

It is important that you and she know that no matter how confident you are, life has bumps and disappointments and down days. You have a right to a self-pity party occasionally.

Law of Attraction or Law of Whatever

No matter what the Law of Attraction Gurus say; You can't always think happy thoughts. And if you worry that a cranky thought today will result in adverse reactions tomorrow, you can drive yourself crazy with guilt.

Some Reasons for Self Doubt

• Things are not working out as we planned.
• Life is harder than we thought.
• Some people lie and cheat and steal and we "should" have known.
• Our hormones make us vulnerable.
• Medications interact and cause side effects of delusional thoughts
• We fall back into old habits of seeing others in the best of lights and us in the worst of lights.
• We forget to count our blessing and recognize how far we have come and how much we have accomplished so far.

Overcome Self Doubt

• Get off your butt and do something. Anything, even cleaning out a drawer. But finish it completely. Unfinished projects eat away at your mind and confidence. It does not have to be perfect, it has to be done.
• Stop thinking about yourself so much and focus on helping someone else. Go to the food pantry and stock shelves or drop off a bag of rice.
• Don't take everything personally. Really and truly, the world, God and the Universe is not out to get you. You are an important part of the universe, but not the center. Most people are way too focused on their own problems to judge you and yours.
• Laugh. Giggle. Smile. I dare you to smile for three minutes (the time of a song on the radio) and still think negative thoughts.
• Remember, as Shakespeare or Gomer Pyle or Confusions or somebody smart said: "The rain falls on the just and the unjust" And as my grandson says "crap happens sometimes. Doesn't mean you are crap."

Just writing this article made me feel better. Taking action of some kind can help overcome self doubt and build self confidence. I recommend you smile, do something and think of all the things you can do. Of course I have been smiling for three minutes because I know you are too.

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